I definitely would quit going to look at the man online. They say we women have a almost unconscious different way of being, just because we are female and know males are bigger and stronger than we are; a man walking down a city street has no cares but a woman, in the very back of her consciousness has a little attentive being who is aware of who is walking up behind her, whether it is a man or a woman, etc.

Fears and feelings can't hurt us. You know you are safe with T but because of this recent experience/memory you are having difficulties. Talking to T and working it through (that it is in the past and not happening now) will feel unpleasant and scary but really be worth it now, with this situation, and in the future with possible other similar ones.