A tough question indeed. My first thought is that "normal" should be forever banished from mental health discussions. There never has been a consensus on what is "normal." As unique people, we have limited ability to conform to a statistical assemblage of behaviors a particular culture deems "normal."

I recognize you are speaking about changing your own behavior to jettison aspects that are detrimental in favor of implementing standards that better integrate what you deem to be of more benefit to you.

The first step seems to be to identify what behaviors must go or be altered in favor of those behaviors you wish focus on and develop.

Good luck.