healthy environment means one where people build you up, not tear you down. or at least there is no one around who is tearing you down. because it can get to where you don't even realize people are being negative. I didn't. at least you realize it - that is good. I don't know what I was thinking all those years! how could I not see it?? anyway, maybe you can show them - I assume it's your family? - some of dr Phil's books and suggest you all try to support each other.