I am having problems with trust issues. He has not cheated but some things he does makes me wonder will he. I also have a problem with his masturbation. I think this is prob due to sexual abuse as a child. But it just bothers me so much. I can't even sleep without him next to me. We are currently seeing a t but just started. How do i let the masturbation thing go? How do i convince myself that it is ok? He has had inapproriate conversations with a woman at work but he tells me that she is a lesbian. But if she is a lesbian than why are they having these convos. Its not too bad but she made a comment that "everyone will think we are dating we talk so much". Should i be upset at this?? I am professional at my job so why isn't he? Would a lesbian make such a comment since she is not interested in men? Why am I so freaked out? Maybe I need a self esteem boost...