I don't know that those issues should limit your ability to have your needs met and to discuss concerns.
It really sounds like this guy holds every single card in this relationship. So long as that is the case, you will continue to suffer at his hand, both emotionally and otherwise.
Perhaps look at yourself if you can 5 years from now. Are you satisfied to remain in this state 5 years hence? Loyalty is a wonderful quality. But loyalty to someone who constantly abuses you isn't loyalty, it's co-dependency and it's an illness.
You cannot "fix" him no matter what you do. Regardless of your loyalty and your love, he isn't going to change. He's going to continue to emotionally abuse and trigger you.
I hope for your sake that
you are in therapy.
Anne
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Originally Posted by BDPpartner
Unfortunately as anyone in a relationship with a bpd suffer will know that once they have an eruption and make such hurtful and insulting comments. They then seem to wipe their memory of the incident like nothing has happened. And will not entertain a discussion about it again until they decide to throw it back in your face at a later date, but only when it suits then  |