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Originally Posted by Leed
How do you know he's had "inappropriate" conversations with this lesbian? Is it just because he talks with her that you think it's inappropriate? I don't think that comment she made was so bad. Everyone probably knows she's a lesbian anyway, so what's so bad about that comment? LOL People talk all the time at work anyway. I wouldn't worry about their talking.
As far as his masturbation, it MAY be due to abuse as a child. Does it interfere with your intimacy? Is your sex life ok, or is it pretty rotten? I would talk with the therapist about these issues, if you haven't already.
You haven't really mentioned anything that would lead to mistrust. Why don't you trust him? You haven't said that he stays out all night, or calls women, or texts women, etc. Why don't you trust him? The fact that he masturbates doesn't really mean you can't trust him. I don't get it really. Maybe there's more to it. ??? Talk to your therapist -- but right now he
sounds pretty trust-worthy. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee
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I don't trust him because he lies about everything!! He lied about the conversation with the lesbian. If its nothing why lie about it? Ya know what i mean? I found deleted texts in his cell and asked about it. He said that he had had an inappropriate convo with someone. I didn't say it he did!!!! So then he said he couldn't remember... now a month later im finding out what the texts were. I was kinda surprised that he would hid it and for so long.
The masturbation bothers me cause when i was a child i had a situation with someone(family member) who tied me to a chair and masturbated behind me. And to this day i think its disqusting and de-meaning I HATE IT!! But i coming to realise that it is natural and that just because he does it doesn't mean he can hurt me (the same way) when i was a child. Its taking some work but Im def trying to give him some space about it...