Congrats on your engagement!!

Having been married a total of two weeks and one day, the planning process and all the drama that went with it are fresh in my mind.

Here's a couple of things to think about. With a wedding 10 months away, you don't need to send invitations until 6-8 weeks before your wedding. If you're worried about out of town guests, you can send out save the dates only to those that will have to travel (or only those you are 100% sure you want to invite, because you can always change your mind later when you send out the invitations. It'll be easier to invite someone last minute than to ask them not to come last minute). For out of town guests, you can also block hotel rooms for them so they will definitely have a place to stay and probably at a discount.

Sometime else to consider, if you're worried about having obnoxious children at your wedding, make the wedding adults only, with the exception of your own child (and if you decide to have any children in the wedding). When my husband's sister got married, they wrote on the invitations that children were not invited. The only exceptions were her own siblings (my husband, who was 7 at the time) because they were in the wedding and they were her siblings. There is nothing wrong with that at all.

Try to remember that you will not please everyone, so make sure you're pleasing yourself first and foremost. I know this can be extremely hard. It sounds like such simple, easy advice, but it's so much more work than you think!

You can tell the DJ exactly who you want and do not want to give toasts, so you can make sure your mother never even gets the mic. You can also hire a day of coordinator to help make sure you day runs smoothly without you having to worry too much (as part of my package, my caterer included it. She was amazing!). Heck, my wedding even had a cop (because the property was owned by the town), so there's options for added security to help keep your mind at rest.

If you want to talk anymore about wedding planning or anything, feel free to PM me. Weddings are super stressful, but we're here to support you. Congrats again!