I would look harder at the coat zipping if I could; was it the sound, sight, the way she moved, that got your attention? I know I was fascinated with my T's hand for awhile, with her wedding ring on her hand and deliberately copied that. But that represented all of my T to me, her T-ness. So, I could wear my wedding ring and remember her hand and how her ring looked to her and feel closer to her, remember better and think better about what I should do when I was with her and was calmer, etc.