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Originally Posted by lostmyway21
Me and T go on walks every single session twice a week. We stop and go to stores. He's picked up his cat food, stopped at pharmacy got his allergy meds, got breakfast, all sorts of things. It made him real to me. All these things help my inner child heal. He's in the parental role, he's basically doing reparenting. Our walks are theraputic because in the office I don't talk at all. When we're walking we're always making forward progress, so I tend to open up and talk more. It also added to my attachment to him.
All I can say is give it another try. See if it's a going to be more helpful or not.  |
Thanks, lostmyway. I'm glad the walks work for you. I don't have a problem talking to my T; that's not the issue. It's always hot in her office, for one thing! She likes to do different things; I'm not sure why she thought it was a good idea. I have to ask her again.
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Originally Posted by Perna
I would look harder at the coat zipping if I could; was it the sound, sight, the way she moved, that got your attention? I know I was fascinated with my T's hand for awhile, with her wedding ring on her hand and deliberately copied that. But that represented all of my T to me, her T-ness. So, I could wear my wedding ring and remember her hand and how her ring looked to her and feel closer to her, remember better and think better about what I should do when I was with her and was calmer, etc.
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I don't like to think that it's part of my "pattern". I don't like to think I'm so deprived that I get turned on by something like that. I think it was the sight. She's thin, and she looked like a kid, not a woman. I'm a lot older than she is so sometimes I'm aware of that fact, though usually it doesn't affect me. I think I was in my infatuation phase more then. I thought I was getting away with something to be allowed to go on a walk with her. I'm still fascinated with her bracelets and her hand. What you wrote about your T's hand is interesting to me. It makes me seem I'm not so crazy as I think about these feelings I get. I don't want to have feelings like that about her, though I know part of me does. Thanks, Perna.