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Originally Posted by SarahMichelle
My T and I go for walks all the time (when she's in the same country as me!) It is just a normal thing. People go for walks. She's just a regular person.
Do you have any ideas yet on why you keep thinking about the coat thing? Does it mean something to you?
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I remember thinking the walks made me realize T is just a regular person, but at the same time, I had weird feelings about her zipping her coat. I think it's like being in love, or at least my version of it, where certain things someone did or said would stay in my mind forever. I remember a boy in 1st grade. I used to hang my jacket next to his on the hooks in the closet. I liked him so I never forgot what his Superman jacket looked like. I never forgot my crush in 4th grade, when at summer camp, he smiled at me. I only remember a couple of things like that with my H. With T, there are a lot of memories like that. I'd call them sensual rather than se*ual. It's like they are ingrained in me.
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Originally Posted by ECHOES
The love and connection I feel for my T has been represented by many things and I'm glad for them all. I think in particular I like when something makes me feel taken care of, like moving her chair toward me and leaning toward me, or even taking the new loud-ticking clock off the wall when I mentioned the loud ticking.
I can imagine the sound of a zipper being a taking care of sound. One thing that comes to mind is how we zzzip! kids up in their coats with a loving taking care of demeanor. Another is more adult - T taking care of T (which in turn is T taking care of us, because she will be there for us).
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I like your theory but it doesn't feel like it fits. I do agree with the connection being reinforced by these memories. I wonder if it's about how babies connect with their mothers?
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Originally Posted by granite1
i dont know i think it would be awsome to be able to walk with my T but i can be sure i couldnt handle being with her ouside of the office at all.nope would never happen i would freak
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Why do you think it would bother you so much, granite?
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Originally Posted by MASIMO
My t goes on long ocean walks with some occasionAL male patients but he won't go with me because I'm female. He is afraid of meeting someone he knows and would have to explain who I am I guess. Guess It's protecting my confidentiality but I'm sad he won't do it with me.
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We walked near the office, in a residential area, not near T's home or anywhere anyone would know her or me. I have never had a male T, but don't think I could handle walks or meditation or hand holding or any of the things I do with my female T if I had a male T.
