Angyl this sounds very complicated-- and many hugs to you in your pain with this all..

It sounds like "Yousef" was having a complicated time, and only he can explain to you why he did what he did if that is part of this pain-- with that being said (and I know with in myself with painful things with no answers- it comes down to this- either get an answer if I can, and If i can not I have to accept it) Now that is just me, and maybe it could work for you--- I have yet in years to fully do the accepting but in my heart i know it is something in the long run I will have to do for myself, since I can't get answers with certain things.....

With solders in war times, or even not, depression can be a huge factor. PTSD as well as well as other factors when they come back home- And it sounds like you had taken that as a factor- but the thing with that is, the person has to help themselves, others can support them as much as they can, but no one can make another do the healing process..... many hugs to him as well with this-

I did note at the end
I have only had one love in my life so far (*the other things of acceptance and stuff are deeper old issues with me, but I could see them apply to this due to I would imagine this be painful)---- But with that being said- If by the saddest of things happening of either I lost my love, I would not expect the next to be the same in every way.. It would be a new love in *many* ways *due to it would be a different person and they have different qualities that I have fell in love with*

best of luck and good thoughts your way