Boy this is hard to keep up with, but I hope Sky see's this.
Thank you for the book advice. I have read all of Bass and Davis' books as well as given the Allies book to my wife, but she wants to give up.
And there-in lies the big problem. I am unable to get past the very first chapters because there is absolutly no system of support.
Great written material on this subject, with some fabulous testimony included. And their experential writing technique I still use.
These texts gave me the first introductory revelation to the aspect of sexual abuse from a true victim/survivor standpoint I ever recieved. And I was well over 40 being allowed to read and discover this, and abuse occurred as far back as my memory can first recall. They empowered me with the revelation that sexual abuse applies to me as a man EXACTLY as it would to you or ANYBODY who has been:
1] Seduced, and 2] sexualized, molested, or sexually abused by an opposite sex authority figure. I believe women catagorize it with rape.
Thank you for the advice and your concern. But there is a much bigger problem here with gender bias and a self serving, misgiving system of mental health support.
Tom S.