To some degree it seems to be a mother daughter thing. Growing up I always felt like my parents both thought that my brother walked on water while I could NEVER do anything right or ever meet expectations. I had conflicts with my daughter when she was younger, but she seemed to always be the apple of her father's eye. He eventually cheated on me and left me arguing that I just did not measure up. Yet I am now remarried to a man who has ultra-high expectations of me as well. Again I seem to never get it right, but I am beginning to realize that it is not because I am somehow inferior or damaged, but that I am basing too much of my self esteem on what others close to me might think of me. The other day I started to make a list of the things that I have done right, no matter how small they may seem. It really helps to put things in perspective. Remember that as a your are a unique and valuable human being. That is a given. Your worth as a woman is not based on whether or not you always please your mother, your family, even your friends