And I repeat, along with others here; Maybe you need to start your own group.

Negative statements like this is what will keep you stuck in your position:

"IF I were beaten up by my wife" - "BUT they are 200 mi away, and chances are any referral they might give," -"think they are too good" These are all uncertainties and ambiguities; "what ifs" that don't lead anywhere!

If what you need isn't readily available to you, then it's up to you to find the help you need and in the process, help other men in your situation. No one is going to hand us anything. We need to take the bull by the horns and get it for ourselves.

If this is some political filabustering, this message board isn't the place to do it. You need to go to your State's officials and yell good and loud there. Starting your own State based website and message board is another way to draw attention to your problem. Write letters, make phone calls, get organized. At any rate, I've exhausted my ideas to just get "yes, but.." and arguments and excuses.

<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>