I am (30 yrs old) stuck in the middle and I thought what I was doing was the right thing but now I know things are going to boil over and soon enough things are going to explode.
Sister #1(27 yrs old) is very judgmental and she would always come to me and critize, and would just say things that shames our sister #2. I would just listen and wouldnt say much. I would express my concerns for our sister #2 but I would never put down our sister #2 (24 yrs old).
It has gone to far with Sister #1 and I knew I couldn't stand up for sister #2 because sister #1 wouldn't care to listen. If I stood up for sister #2, sister #1 just wouldnt care anyway. She is always right!!
I was feeling so much guilt that I didn't stand up for sister #2, I went to sister #2 and told her whats been going on and whats been said behind her back for the last year or so.
Sister #2 is so hurt by it and she also now want to talk to sister #1. I told sister #2 that I don't mind for her to talk to sister #1. I know by then sister #1 will hate me and we will never talk again. In some way I felt guilty by even telling sister #2 anything. I should have just kept everything to myself so then no one will have to get stressed out.
I felt so guilty for not standing up for sister #2 but then when I told her everything sister #2 is now more upset and hurt then ever and sister #1 will hate me.
I feel like now I should just go to sister #1 and tell her what I did and to tell her my real feelings that her negativity is hurting all of us and I can't be around that anymore. It makes me wonder what she's said about me behind my back if she can put down our sister #2. She saids things that are so horrible and its not out of concerns. She puts so much shame on our sister #2. Enough is enough.
What should I do?
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