Yeah, that 'just' sounds like a control issue but like dark_heart said, we can't really diagnose it and there really isn't enough info to even make the assumption he is bipolar. Just sounds like someone who likes to play mind games from what you posted and that, probably, isn't a good sign.

Thanks for posting that wheel, dark_heart. I can see some things on there in a past relationship that helps to reinforce me getting out of it.