((((Barbi)))) I can relate. I think many of us can relate.
I don't have a relationship with my mother at all any more. Certainly NOT for lack of trying. But it became crystal clear that she would never change, and no matter what I did, she would never accept me, understand me or stop emotionally / psychologically torturing me.
My brother also walks on water for my mother.
And as for my sister, well, the two of them are practically joined at the hip, and totally manipulating my father.
When I broke it off with my mother, she made it really easy for me because she finally said what she was REALLY thinking. To my face. (in the past, she was a backstabbing, gossipy, judgmental liar. I guess it made her feel better about herself. She never had the guts to really say what she thought to my face because she didn't want everyone to KNOW how horrible she truly is/was. Well, thankfully, she slipped and out it flew: her true thoughts about me). For the first time in 30+ years, my mother actually gave freely of herself.
And she made it so easy to walk away.
I wish her all the best. however, she is not allowed to hurt me ever again.
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