I didn't think I needed much space at one point in my life. The more attention the better. The more somebody wanted to spend time with me the better. Then I met...and split from... my ex. He was so needy and draining I eventually needed TONS of space. Now I need so much space from him the planet is not big enough.

Now, fast forward to today. I'm in a relatively new relationship. Everything seems to be going fine. But this guy seems to need his space. He does not need me. If I go over to his place or not...he's fine either way. I find it disconcerting. It's good that he doesn't NEED me. But it's also unsettling that he doesn't need me. For one with abandonment issues, I second guess where I stand on a daily basis. I suppose 'splitting' is coming into play. 'Not needing' becomes 'not wanting' in my world. But when we're together everything's wonderful. I don't get it.

How much space do you need from your significant other? How much space do they need? What I mean by that is - how much time do you spend with them and is that a problem for one of you? How do you deal with it?