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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
I think that you need to keep looking for a job and working towards getting more independant.
I don't feel that it is true that a psychologist will not see you if you are not on medications. I see one and I am not on medications. It isn't all about medications now, there is a growing desire to see if by therapy we can help ourselves as there is no magic pill.
I am sorry that you have an unsupportive mother, it sounds like she is the one with the psychological issues and you are just being a victim of that. In a situation like that, it is best to work on getting yourself a job and means to get away from that atmosphere.
We are here to listen, maybe someone else will add some other advice as well. Be patient, people are not always right here an on PC to see your thread and answer it right away. But you must know that none of us are therapists or pdocs so no one here can diagnose you. We can offer our support though.
Welcome to PC (((Ladytiger)))
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they can write all the drugs they want doesn't mean i am going to buy them. a psychiatrist/counselor/therapist make their money on prescribing drugs and that is a true fact. i don't want medications anyway i just wanna talk these issues out.
so, what i found out is i would like to go to therapy to be tested for add/adhd and i was told on the phone that therapy is only if you are on medications doing group therapy. i am not interested in group therapy i want to do one on one i have sat in a group (wasn't group therapy) talking about these issues and some of it was helpful the rest was too negative for me. that's what i was told by the behavioral services on the phone but i can sit there for 2 hrs talking to the therapist for add/adhd. i know that's not ptsd but everything is so limited.
i agree i need to keep looking for a job. i know people on here are not therapist and what not i am just curious if they see this as a problem for me and at my age that is all. my mom's 1st born daughter has severe mental issues of what she endured growing up (as i know nothing about her) and my mom never helped her at all and still doesn't today. she is almost 50 yrs old has no clue what she is doing and my mom's side of the family does nothing to help her. my grandma was doing all the work taking care of her and 2 of our cousins who lost their parents at a young age. they lost their minds a long time ago and are horrible at what they do. my 2nd oldest was in NC few years ago visiting our grandma and saw how our 2 cousins we don't know are living their lives.
1st born half sister is missing in NC and nobody back there know where she is nor are they looking hard enough either. the 2 cousins have mental issues too so does my dad. sounds like it's a huge problem in the family but everything is so secretive we don't know what's true and what isn't true.
i saw through behavioral services on doing life skills training to learn to be an independent adult since i was never taught how to be an adult to stand on my own 2 feet since i had to look at my mom being a disgusted codependent lack of a mother and she never did anything for herself in over 30 yrs. she never taught us 4 anything about independence she said "you don't need to work everything is paid for, you need to learn to be an independent adult and stand on your own two feet and i don't see why you need a job anyway you are working for 'the man'! how selfish of you to want to get a job so you can do what you want, when you want, and spend your money however you want!"
see how contradicting that is? she is 65 she's been codependent for a very very long time and don't intend to change or want better for herself anyway. i have a very unsupportive dad too, him and my mom are 2 peas in a pod anyway. both parents are narcissus, MPD, one is a pathological liar and the other is an habitual liar, manipulators, the list goes on and on.
my 2nd oldest sister and brother function normal and just fine except for me. thanks for the advice