(((((IowaFarmGal)))))

NO, it is not selfish or wrong to want to be acknowledged. To be included in planning and decision-making, it is NOT wrong.

You should be involved in these things if you are on the same level as others. For instance, things are different at work than at home. We typically have a lot more say at home than we do on the job. But, we do have some say.

The trick is getting yourself to swallow and (fake some self-confidence) speak up. Try to word things carefully, so no one is offended, but tell others what you would like to see happen.

Very best wishes to you!