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Originally Posted by peaches100
Recently, i realize that i am also reluctant to let the pain go. Not because i want to keep suffering, but because it has been a part of me for as long as i can remember. For the part of me that holds pain, it seems like unburdening the pain will leave an empty shell with nothing in it, or that this part of me would disappear. I don't know how else to explain it. My t has been asking me, what would that part that holds pain like to do, once it has let go of all the pain and suffering? I can't seem to answer that. The purpose of this part of me seems like it has always been to hold emotional pain, away from other parts of me.
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WOW! I could have written this. I'm at exactly the same place (and we're doing IFS work). I know that I need to let go of a certain pain and a certain idea (that someone, like my T, can be my mom), but it's so hard and what will I replace these spaces with? They almost 'comfort' me because they are such an inherent part of me.
So, yes, like many, many others (which assuages me, too) this makes incredible sense to me. But, we must work through it and pop out the other side healthier, stronger, and pain-free... MUCH easier said than done!
