My advice (since ya asked) is to keep the date that you scheduled and go with your mother-in-law. I say this because your mother is giving you mixed messages. If she honestly cannot get off work, that's a legitimate reason to ask for a change in dates. However, she ALSO said she couldn't afford it, which makes me wonder if maybe she's just having some inner conflict about it. IF that's the case, she'll probably cancel you on a second date too.
Soooo, if it were me, I'd take my future mother-in-law with me and have a great time and go out to lunch either before or after the appointment. Just tell your mom something like, "I'm so sorry you can't get off work but I can't reschedule this. You can come to one of the fittings if you want to" and leave it at that.
Family can be sooooo high maintenance, can't they?
Anne
PS Keep in mind that most wedding gowns are ridiculously over-priced. If you don't hvae time to make your gown but don't want to pay the exorbitant fees to get it through a bridal salon, try on some gowns at a bridal store, take pix of the top one or two and find a local dressmaker to make it for you. A good dressmaker can create a beautiful gown that is not only much less expensive (like $500 instead of $5000) but better made. The bridal shops get their gowns made in Asia and the workmanship is sometimes iffy, IMO, especially for gowns costing so much.
Hope that helps!
Anne
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Originally Posted by PurpleFlyingMonkeys
So heres the thing, for the last two months my mom has been hounding me about going dress shopping. I wanted to make my dress myself but she wouldnt give up. So i caved. I decided i would go dress shopping with her since shes "been waiting for this for 25 years" i decided it wouldnt hurt to try them on to get ideas and just have one custom made, we have 9 months to go, not much time for me to make the dress and everything else im making. So about 3 weeks ago we decided on the 7th, i even invited my future mother in law who was really excited. So mom messaged me on fb yesterday saying shes going to cancel the appointment for the 7th because she cant get off work. Then her story changes that she just cant afford it, although i told her numerous times that i am paying for it. She wants to reschedule but my entire month of july is already full as well as my mother in laws. So at this rate i wont be able to order my dress until mid august, since im doing it online its going to take a long time for them to custom make it but her guilt trip if i just go ahead and order it will be rediculous. Im contemplating on rescheduling for the 7th, going with my mother in law and ordering the dress, then just going (although at this point it would be useless) and trying them on again with mom when a time works for her. Is this ok or am i already turning into this bridezilla you hear about?
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