Elie, I take back what i said about the photos. What you're talkin' about is porn, plain and simple. And the penis in the face photo? Big time controlling behavior. Creepy, controlling behavior.
If he had 2 accidents within 2 weeks, either he's a helluva bad driver, seeking suicide or wants lots of attention. In any case, I'm sure you don't let your kids in the car with him driving, right?
Inasmuch as he's the father of the little one and not the 4-year-old (sorry about that confusion on my part), there's absolutely no reason for him to have any interaction with the 4 year old at all, right? Now that's a relief!
Hang in there!
Anne
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Originally Posted by elle_jane
Thank you all for your advice. I am definitely taking it all on board.
Anne, he is actually the father of my 6 month old daughter.
I spoke with my mum and she said she is worried that he may try some attention seeking behavior that could compromise the kids safety. She wouldn't specify further but he did have 2 car accidents within 2 wks (wrote off both our cars) and I dont think my mum believed they truely were "accidents"
As for the photos, he didnt show anyone but they really were degrading. Some where similar to what drunk teenages do to there mates who pass out. He also took photos of my breasts when i fell asleep breast feeding. Photos where his penis was about to poke me in the face etc... They werent simply for pleasure, plus he did have some provocative photos that we discussed and I had agreed to. But he knew the boundrys! I found a hidden file on his computer with about 40 images and I dont think he would of stopped had I not found them.
U are also spot on about the mental illness, I really shouldnt put any stock behind it. Thanks for pointing that out.
Anyway, I'm still not sure what to do about him but I am not letting that stop me from living my life. Not quite ready to date yet tho lol.
elle
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