For me, writing it out was as good as sending to him. THe pending drama of his response just isn't worth it, nor the worrying about the repercussions. I'm LUCKY to have a strong support system so I don't feel the need for closure with my dad -- ending contact makes me more than happy enough. Sending him a letter is just inviting him to cause more grief, which I simply want to avoid.

It really all depends on the circumstance.