Does your husband beat you? Whether he does or not, there are people who can help you. You may not like the idea of going to a shelter, but they can help get you out of that situation. What he's doing to you is abusive to the children, and you have to do something for their sake.

And don't leave hints for your family about your husband. Tel them. Say it. They may not understand just how bad it is for you, and they're not mind readers. You have to ask for help to get it.