Exactly what Iowa, Indigo, and Leed have said is true for me. It has gotten better for me. Some things that have helped:

1. Being with people who know how to be positive and loving. Opening myself up to those influences.

2. Learning to notice and accept compliments, so I would I have a more realistic view of what I do well -- and not so well.

I still tend to focus on people's negative views of me, but it really is a whole lot better.