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Originally Posted by Rose Panachée
Iowa I dont think so at all. I think it is human. Perhaps you arent surrounding yourself with like-minded people. Doing activities that you really enjoy and therefore you dont feeling comfortable and connected. What types of a things do you do enjoy? Perhaps you are with the wrong group of people (if you are uncomfortable) People can sense discomfort too so it can make things feel awkward.
For instance, I am totally uncomfortable around large groups of people. If a group was going to a rock concert i would have to decline. If the same group wanted to go for happy hour after work, i would have to decline. It isnt that i dont want to be with them but i would rather go home and be with my cat and feel safe than make everyone feel uncomfortable while i was try to force myself to fit in.
In my healing I am learning it is ok to do things for myself and to honor my comfort zone. When i am comfortable those around me are comfortable 
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Thank you for responding Rose! I'm sorry to say I have no real world connections other than therapy and work. It's all online support groups. At home I have a son that barely speaks and stays in his room and a Mom who talks to me but makes less sense as the days go by. At least Mom is no longer critical of me as she was when I was growing up. At this point I have no idea what I might enjoy. I used to like music and art. I don't like large groups and noise, but the senior center is pretty quiet and the cooks I work with are nice. They do include me in the breaks and talking about stuff, but it's part time and temporary. The online people actually have lives that keep them busy and so they aren't always there. Sometimes nobody responds to my posts, which shouldn't be a big deal but it's all I have. I am very uncomfortable in groups if I don't have a task to do, an excuse to be there. I do have pets that I enjoy sometimes when they aren't being annoying and destructive. I do look for the other people that have no reply and try to answer, sometimes it's pretty clear why no one else answered but I try to reply anyway. Sometimes it's welcome and I hope you find the help you need here, (

OMG please don't kill me). I try not to be selfish, I do answer other peoples posts.