I've observed how my bestfriend is like when she's around her husband and it is as though the ten years I've know never have existed. She's totally a whole different person. She's come to me many times asking me why doesn't her husband care about her enough to work on their marriage and why isn't their communication is clearer and more loving. They've only been married for 3 years with a 3 year old child. She wants to be cared, to be valued and loved by him but she feels that he simply brushes her off and tells her that she's making such a big deal out of nothing. I've recently been observing her how she is when she's around her husband and now I understand why they've been having so many problems. She wants to be valued to be important but with her actions she enforces on what her husband believes. We had taken a vacation together and all that was on her mind was about her husbands wants and needs. As we went out to eat she shared a kids meal with her child where her husband had a large meal with seafood. As she was ill on our trip she still waited in the hot sun for her husband to enjoy himself on the rides at disneyland. Never once did I hear him ask her how she was doing and suggesting that maybe they should go back to the hotel room to get their rest. How could she expect him to value her to consider her feelings when her actions shows him that she is lesser then him that she's not as important. How is that in a relationship most of the time the woman so easily gives up her own needs and her happiness is determined by how her partner is happy or not.