Calista... something I have learned about me and my reading/writing posts here and in life in general...you can be talking about the sweetest, most relaxing thing...and theres going to be someone somewhere in this big blue world we live on thats going to be triggered by it. there are thousands of members here and its not possible for me to please and not trigger each and every one of them that may read my posts. and Im sure I have triggered many.

but my job as a member here isnt about pleasing everyone else is it? heck even my off line life and career isn't about pleasing every single person on this big blue world we live on. my job/reason for being here is for me, my issues and to help those I can.

don't worry about triggering others and having to shut up because others cant handle reading your posts.. everyone here must take care of their self, Psych Central has given us some help by supplying that fabulous ignore list in our profiles but ultimately we must take care of ourselves.

my point of my previous post to you was ***not*** meant to point out that your post was triggering to others so shut up..

my point was to let you know why it took me so long to answer your post...that for me the topic of suicide right now is scary and triggering for me. the reason it is wasnt because of you, someone I know just succeeded in their suicidal efforts,so before I posted to you I took the steps needed to take care of my self first.

again your post was triggering to me but you were not the reason behind the triggering feelings I felt.

just like you didnt know this topic was triggering for me and why, I dont know whether the word **flowers*** is triggering for someone else and why..I love flowers but that doesnt mean someone else hasnt had a bad deal with flowers.. does that mean no one can post anything about flowers because they run the risk of triggering someone.. no not at all. it just means those that are triggered by words other write must take the time to take care of their self.

Calista whether you shut up or not thats your choice.. my opinion is that I dont want you to shut up.. regardless of what you post sometimes just posting something makes a person feel better. I love to see people posting because that means they are doing what they need to, to take care of their mental well being.

I can suggest to you that you may want to consider writing more posts..but only you can decide whether you shut up or not.