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Jun 28, 2012, 05:20 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Oh how i remember those days! My ex would ALWAYS bring up any past "wrongs" that i may have done or he SAID i did, whether I did them or NOT. No matter how many times I either made amends or PROVED to him that i did NOT do whatever it was, he continued to bring it up and blame me for it. 26 years of this, over and over and over. 
I would tell him "I'm sorry you feel like this, but I can't change it, only YOU can." And of course that would INFURIATE him. I was supposed to make him feel better NOW.
People like this cannot be dealt with. They are out of control, and are not willing to listen. They don't like to take responsibility for their own actions, and blame others for everything. They NEED therapy BADLY, but most of the time they refuse to go because they think they're right about everything. If they DO happen to go, usually they'll walk out of the first or maybe second session after the therapist says something negative about them.
I don't know how I stood it for 26 years. Stupidly, I did it for the "sake of the children." Instead, it hurt the kids more than helped them. I finally divorced the jerk.
Best of luck -- you're going to need it, my friend. God bless. Hugs, Lee
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