I think she is just using you, IMO. You took all the debt and you're giving her most of your income so she can maintain her lifestyle. You didn't take anything and left her everything.

This is def. hindsight bias. She is eliciting to remember HER version of what happened and neglecting to see anything negative she may have done to you. She is also using bipolar disorder as a reason to do this, but she doesn't really have justification for doing this. It sucks that you're a male. If you were a female and made complaints about abuse the court would be more willing to listen. People are less inclined to think males can be abused.