I am trying to not let it get to me, it's hard. Thank God I started on some pro therapy last week. It's not making me feel better, but it's getting me to slow down and think more instead of just falling into depression.
She does have a lawyer but he will not respond to my lawyer. I mentioned this in my group therapy last night and another person who went through a divorce said the same thing happened to him. They were trying to "Ice" him, knowing he was at times depressed and irrational, in hopes that he would give more and more and more to have it end. I think that's what happening here, she has seen how I've been and how my BP has effected everything. Maybe she thinks I'll flip again and come back, but I won't.
Therapy has showed me some things. The radical acceptance here is that I can't control this. I can't force her to take my offer. I can't make court go faster. I can just offer what I think is fair and leave the rest up to her/court. I know all that, but her words cut me so deep, it's amazing to me.
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Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon
This is def. hindsight bias. She is eliciting to remember HER version of what happened and neglecting to see anything negative she may have done to you. She is also using bipolar disorder as a reason to do this, but she doesn't really have justification for doing this. It sucks that you're a male. If you were a female and made complaints about abuse the court would be more willing to listen. People are less inclined to think males can be abused.  |
Thanks for your perspective, I hadn't really ever looked at it like this. I obviously only gave the 20,000 view of what's happened, but I know I have not done her wrong or tried to leave her alone when i left. I supported her against paying down my debt and getting myself into a better position financially. It just kills me that A) It's not enough and B) She seeks to bring me down and she knows exactly how to do it. That is what she is doing it, I know it.