Does anyone on here know the best way to deal with rage? I am so angry at my soon-to-be-ex-husband that I can hardly see straight at times. It's not so much that I want him back, or that I'm mad at what he's doing to me, but it's the KIDS -- the innocent bystanders in all of this -- on whose behalf I get really upset.

My husband just walked out last fall (most of you know this already) and has consistently refused to consider any attempt at reconciliation. So, thanks to his selfishness, my kids have to leave their house and move into an apartment that is less than half the size. He also is living in an apartment. As of Monday, my children will no longer be able to just run out into the yard for summer water play, or to ride their bikes around the block, or set up our traditional Halloween graveyard in the yard when October comes around, and I get so upset at my husband.

We're both being quite civil -- friendly, even -- because we want the children to be as happy as possible. And yet I have this almost constant urge to hiss at him, "Are you happy with what you're doing to the kids? Are you happy that because of YOUR stupid selfishness they have to pay the price???"

If he had agreed to even ONE attempt at trying to work things out, I don't think I'd be quite so full of rage.

Whew. Thank you for letting me vent. I personally am looking forward to getting over this and moving on, but I am terribly, terribly upset about the sacrifices the children have to make for something that is in no way their fault.