There is no writen rule of how a persons DID system should be. Everyone is different and everyone has been through different trauma that's created each system. My peices and I call them pieces because they are pieces of my broken glass I was. ( Is how I see them)
But my peices are who they are. They don't go by a text book or by any concept my T wants them to be. They are who they are.

I made it a rule long ago that any peice is welcomed out for any reason they see fit. Sometimes they are triggered and come out, other times they are out because they want to be. This works for me and my system. It helps me heal in a way that works for me. My peices know that they are safe and welcomed no matter who they are. This has also helped in my therapy. They know that the therapist office is a safe place to be. A place to play in the doll house there or sit in the flower garden and talk with the T.

I guess I'm just wanting to say is that everyone is different and it's OK. You don't have to do things in a certain order in T, you can sit in a dark closet and have a little one color to their hearts content. You have a system that works for you and only you. Be proud of your system. They saved you when you needed them. They are a part of you and only you. Be kind to yourselves.

Lisa