I wasn't ever real comfortable in bringing up the issue in therapy, but it was haunting me, so I knew that it was time for me to speak up.

Like you, I had always talked in vague terms to my T's. I started off by talking about my self-hate and blame that I've carried for so many years. Then, I said that my brother and I had an incestuous relationship at times. I told my T how old I was at the time, how old my brother was, and the negative emotions associated with the memories. I left it at that for a while (probably about one year), and then as I grew more trusting of my T, I decided to describe a particular event that's haunted me for so many years.

My T was then able to understand my perspective on life and myself a lot better. My T has known for a long time about how I've carried shame towards sex, and that this created a lot of problems with relationships for me ~ as well as damaged my self-esteem by giving in to male desires. I think that my self-esteem issues are very obvious to others. But, admitting these dark thoughts and beliefs took some time for me.

Talking with my T about my perspective has helped. Being validated helped me immensely! I wish you the best...