A lot of women have been handed the message that their worth is second to their husband's. Feminism has helped a lot in getting women to realize they matter just as much, and your happiness shouldn't be determined by your partner's happiness. Of course you want your partner to be happy if you love him or her, but pleasing your partner shouldn't determine your happiness.

I saw a woman on either Trading Spouses or Wife Swap (I always get those two shows mixed up) who loves being a slave to her man (and I don't mean BDSM), finding pleasure in the "drudgery" of everyday work, and having him be the "king of his castle." She even clipped his toenails for him!!! Her whole life was making her husband happy. I can't relate to that.

Girls and women often think they're responsible for a man's happiness. It's often passed from generation to generation, but society still gives this message in more hidden ways. How many commercials, movies and TV shows portray a man with lots of women fawning over him as a stud, and a woman who sees lots of men as a slut? Girls are supposed to be sexy and hot and compete with each other for a man's attention. I love men, but not at the expense of loving myself.