(((((((Rose)))))))

This really sounds like a difficult situation.

I don't know the motivations that those girls could possibly have while talking about their babies and being pregnant and so on. I don't relate with the idea of those things being accomplishments at all, so that sounds confusing to me. I do however know that when people have something in common they tend to gravitate to one another, talk about it and neglect the minority that does not connect with these things. And that can be, in my experience, quite frustrating.

I read that when you hear these things, it really bothers you. And it sounds to me like you're feeling very hurt and angry and would like some consideration?

At the root of that is great sadness and mourning for that which you've lost. In addition to the pain of losing two loved ones, there is a sense of a lost opportunity, perhaps? And the distance that you're feeling from the hope of having a child and being a parent is agonising.

I can't think of anything short of addressing these feelings that could help. I think losses like these are too profound and too enormous for us to even think about them in a vague sense without being deeply affected. So I would suggest that perhaps resolving to talk about it at least with your T is a move you could make. And by that I mean seeing this loss as something to confront actively.

I'm concerned that that will sound very harsh and difficult to you, and I don't want to make this more difficult for you. Sounds like you're having a really tough time and need support and hope. Perhaps connecting with those needs too can be helpful.

I am here for any support I can provide.

Love,
Bean