Actually RD, if she does keep up the bp compensation talk, you could point out that in the name of fairness you 'deserve' compensation for the alcoholism. It doesn't have to be said with malice,in anger or out of frustration, you could use your dbt skills to centre yourself and calmly point it out as a logical negotiating point to bring up, seeing as tho you 2 are trying to have a fair divorce... My aim with this suggestion is not to hurt your soon to be ex, but to force her to look at the role she so clearly played in the deterioration of your marriage...