(((splitter))),

When we experience or relate with a person who is a preditor and we end up suffering because of it, it is very normal to desire to expose the danger of this person to others who may also fall victim to the person.
And the statement, "I know I should not care" is what TOO many seem to think. And because of that, more people fall victim of these preditiors. So the fact that you "do" care is not unhealthy, you simply do not want others to continue to give this preditor power.

However, when we DO warn others we cannot control "how they respond" to this information we are providing. But what we do accomplish is that we have put a "question" in the other person's mind about this possible preditor. They may continue relating with this preditor and yet in a more careful way as to not be harmed themselves. It all depends on what kind of relationship a preditor has with others around him/her. And a preditor is usually very intelligent and can be very convincing in his/her ways of making others feel comfortable and even as if they are "gaining" special privilages while they are connected to or around the preditor.

Now, we just saw an example of that with the Sandusky case where he was finally seen for really being a preditor verses the "game" he was playing to conceal his real motives. Sandusky presented himself as someone who cared about children and parents felt they were lucky to have "their child" mentored by this man, even when their children expressed fear and lack of desire to be around this man.

The most you can do is alert others, however that will never guaruntee that others will, infact, believe you. And this kind of experience does happen to many people, so you are not alone in this experience. Unfortunately, these preditors ARE very smart and they DO know how to "decieve" very effectively. And often they gain a lot of popularity as well because they figure out "how" to make people feel that they are doing well by being connected to this preditor.

And the other thing that can be troubling is that these preditors often follow along with a guideline or rule where they even hide under and umbrella of an organization of somekind where they have their base for maintaining their "victims of choice". And even when something may be said to "these organizations" there is still nothing done to expose these preditors. This happens ALL THE TIME. It happens in schools, government, churches, sports of all kinds, the legal system itself, even doctors and dentists and police any place people gather in groups under some kind of unbrella of an organized group.

I am very sorry that you have been exposed to a preditor. It is always a very troubling experience and even more troubling when you try to speak up and it feels like no one is listening.

((((Hugs))))
Open Eyes