[QUOTE=donut;1528191]Hi everyone

I have come home from work feeling really low and upset. I love my job but there is one woman who really is quite unpleasant in what I feel is a passive aggressive kind of way. several other people have made complaints about her including a colleague.

Today she asked me something about a job I was doing, but as is usual for her she asked in cocky I know better than you kind of way. I objected and she did her usual thing of responding with the comment "it's not all about you." I don't know what the rest of you think but I find this retort really agressive and dismissive. so I snapped back and told her if she used that particular phrase again I would get really angry. Others in the office heard this and I felt upset, but also ashamed for my behaviour.

I feel even angrier now because later in the day I apologised to her for my behaviour because I could not bear the atmosphere. She accepted my apology but made no attempt to apologise for her actions. Ifeel so upset about it. Sorry for the whinge.[/QUOTE


I was excited about joining a new work group 2 months ago. I would be working on topics I love. I am now depressed and the project is falling apart. My boss says its not my fault but That does not make me feel any better. The person who I replaced tells me she left because of a woman on the team like you describe. The contractor on the job tells me she abusive on the phone when I am not there. When I read your posting I thought I must have written it. She blames everyone for the group breakdowns and will not take responsibility. She claims she is the victim. I can walk away unharmed from work I love, but she will continue bullying, victimizing contractors, and diminish services for those who are in great need of them. This is a loose, loose situation . I am depressed and don't know what action to take.