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Jun 30, 2012, 11:17 AM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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(((Cowboy)))
My husband is my "life-line." If anything happens to him, I die too...plain and simple. I've experienced tragic and excruciatingly painful losses of extremely dear loved ones, but never the loss of a "life-line." I can only imagine how it rips your heart to shreds.
People say stupid things because the grieving process is so painful and disturbs the atmosphere. If they have never experienced such a loss or cannot relate to its depth, their only option is to attempt to take your mind away from the painful thoughts so that you can move on with your life. Even when they can relate to the loss, their attempts to "cheer you up" can be awkward.
You'll never be able to "get over" that love, but you'll be able to incorporate it into your life as a huge "life lesson." Take the time you need to "find your feet" again and allow your heart to heal, and take good care of yourself. Do the very best you can to live a "good" life each and every day. This is how you can honor the love you shared with her. Further on down the road, when you are ready, maybe you'll find another love. She'll never replace what you had, but your "life lesson" will help you appreciate and cherish what you DO have in this world - the ability to live and love life.
My condolences on your loss. 
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