My T is very nondirective, so we only talk about it if I bring it up. When I mention it, he never makes a big deal out of it, I think because he knows it (my si) really really freaks me out.

The most forceful thing he has ever said about it is that he doesn't like it when people he likes hurt themselves. I didn't appreciate that comment because it felt controlling, and also because I don't like to be reminded that he likes me.

One of the most helpful things he has ever said to me: I was upset I did it after a long period of time and was disappointed and discouraged and feeling really crazy about it. He said, it's okay, just try [to stop] again. Kind of like people who try to stop smoking or drinking, if you fall off the wagon just dust yourself off and get back on again. No point in beating yourself up over it.

That really helped, because sometimes I would get so anxious about si'ing that it would make me si even more, to stop the anxiety.

So yes, he can handle it, it does concern him and he is understanding.