Hello Dear Friend,
Thank you for sharing your personal feelings. Yes everyday is empty without the love you loved then and now. I do admit freely I sometimes envy couples when I see them. Then I think what you have is real your feelings are valadated by the love that you have for your mate/partner. Sometimes others get the priviliage to be married for a lifetime. Thats great for them. At the same time those close to us as you said try to be there for us. Yes sometimes they stumble on their word or they say something that may seem weird. I don't know how I would react to the passing of their loved one. I minght do the same thing. I have learned that there is no right or wrong way there are no rules. Grief is a private matter.
There are triggers, that bring my tears of joy, anger, disbelif. I just recently closed the checking account we had together. That was very hard to do I ahve also moved from the house we shared together. I have the puppy we picked out together. She just turned two.
No time frame will ever change the feelings when your love gose before you.
With my sincere heart I embrace yours and hug it tight.
Love , Elbie