I do a weird kind of 'push-pull' thing when it comes to space. When someone's close to me, it's great and then I suddenly feel suffocated, and can't take it. This is when I isolate myself until I get desperately lonely, and then the cycle starts again.

I think that guy sounds psychologically healthy- a psychologically healthy person can live without their partner. They don't crumble like Bpds often do when alone.It's actually a compliment because it means they're not with you for the selfish fact that they are totally dependent on you. Instead, they're with you because they love you, which is technically far better, although the fact that someone would love me in that way is disconcerting to me in itself. I'm used to codependency, not love! Eek. ;-)