Carrie,

It's a habit. Hurting yourself has just been the thing that you do when junk in life starts to get to you. Habits are hard to change.

It's really great the way you found the humor in your husband's behavior, and I agree that he probably did feel sheepish about how he was acting and resorted to telling you you sounded like your mother because in comparison to you today he felt inadequate and in order to reduce his cognitive dissonanance he had to convince himself that you were closer to his level. He may or may not be able to recognize what he was doing. It's just human nature.

Really, I think you are doing a fantastic job of dealing with life and being in control of your problems.

((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
Wendy

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