Sure my friend can use an ear thermometer; however, my concern is more about me being triggered. I can attempt to arrange my life so that I avoid triggers as much as possible, such as by asking my friend to not talk about her child's temp. What concerns me though is the fact that I react so. And the fact that I get triggered tells me that a part of me still needs healing. In order for me to reach a point where I'm not so acutely reactive to the mention of r. thermometers, I need to heal. For me, healing comes about when I'm able to make the emotional connection between the current trigger and my past (historical) experience. I need to be in the company of a safe person and allow myself to be aware of the experience as a child. To allow myself to re-experience the emotions of blank, blank, blank as mother did blank blank blank. When I am able to re-experience the experience of terror, etc. as a little girl, and do so in the presence of a safe person such as T, that is so healing. In healing from other past trauma, I've found that re-experiencing terrifying moments in the presence of a trusting T, was healing. Because a component of the traumatic experience was being all alone in it. Having no other human being present. Alone, abandoned, betrayed, unprotected, at the mercy of blanks.... And in therapy, part of the "corrective emotional experience" is yes having a protective, safe adult present.
Anyway, I've said before that sure my friend can use an ear thermometer, but I am more concerned about the inner work that I need to do. Can anyone relate to that?
Thanks y'all!