I have been married for 19 years and struggle with feeling accepted by my mother-in-law. After 4 years of therapy, I still can not get over her. She is very judgemental and because of that, I feel that is all she sees is the bad in me. I have quit trying to please her, but always dread our time together. Fortunately, we do not live close and see each other a few times a year. However, just writing about this or thinking about our relationship just causes me stress. My t says I take her personality issues and personalize it that I am unworthy by her standards. This is really a stopping point for me and I really want to get over it. Does anyone else have this problems and how do you deal with it?