I think you need to go back to this therapist and say these things to her and see what she says and what she does. If you want a therapist to ask you questions rather than wait for you to talk, say this is what you want and see if they are open to doing it and whether they can actually pull it off. I brought an issue to my T a couple of months ago and I told her that I wanted to her to ask me a bunch of questions, assessment-style, to see if I can figure out what was behind something (how I react) that was bothering me. She did and it was great. I've told her a couple of other times that I needed her to do something different, that she wasn't giving me enough in return. So she did.

I don't think that therapists "do" therapy like radiologists give you a cat scan. It is an interaction, and the way that therapy works best is when you can say what you want and they can give it to you, and that you work in an interactive way. You have to discuss what's bothering you with your T and see how she reacts. If she gets angry or says this is how I work and I am not changing, then I'd switch. But if she is capable and tries to work with you in a way that you feel is better, that's the ticket.