oh wow. yeah, I asked my mother 3 years ago to leave me alone. I explained to my brother (he's a T) that I get nightmares and heart palpitations, anxiety attacks. I see my t 3 days a week. still she calls me, or gets other relatives to call every couple of months, at least. after a call, I will have nightmares for a week. working thru this with T, building a safe r/s there, I think is the only solution. i'm hoping it is!