Hi! This is a really good question. I didn't have contact with any of my abusers for 10 years. I recently moved back to the where they live. Many of my abusers were/are family members. I do have contact with them now. The most important thing for me is to be safe. When I didn't feel like I could be safe emotionally or physically I stayed away. After being in recovery for many years I've come to a place of knowing there's nothing they can do to me anymore. I know if I need to, I can leave. I'm able to see them objectively now. I've come to a place of understanding and forgiveness. Not all days do I forgive. And on those days I stay away. I always make sure I have a way to leave if I need to. I'm very clear about my boundaries. I confronted the main abuser many years ago. So he knows, I know. That was the only way I could be in contact with him. I couldn't pretend nothing happened and be around him. I needed him to know that I know who and what he is. That made a huge difference for me. Good luck in your journey. I think the most important thing to remember is that I have to do what's best for me no matter what.